How to end sexual harassment
It seems that many the issue of sexual harassment has become a big one in recent years. Since the Anita Hill-Clarence Thomas proceedings sexual harassment in the workplace and on public streets has become a big deal. From reading various feminist blogs, I totally get that a woman should be able to dress however she wants without having an obnoxious guy come up to her and annoy her or ask her out (with the hopes of sleeping with her) just because she is dressed in a certain way.
Okay this is a solution, for what it’s worth. According to Dr. Warren Farrell in the audio version of his landmark book “The Myth of Male Power”, a woman who is approached way in a crude by a man who she finds annoying or offensive should communicate with the man. Farrell states a woman should “Tell the man directly, privately how it makes you feel less valued as a human being. Almost every women Farrell knows who has approached a man in this way has found the man apologizing.
Okay better yet read on a blog pertaining to this very issue that a woman who just wants to be left alone and is approached by a man should just act crazy. Acting crazy is also the easiest way to get away from someone who could cause harm. The commentator goes on to say that she knows a fairly small woman who literally acts crazy if she feels she’s in a vulnerable situation. She play-acts talking to herself, shouting, rocking back and forth. It drives guys away. The majority of men do not want to get involved with someone who’s crazy.
Finally, as a man I have learned this “yes means yes, no means no”. I want to emphasize that no means no! For years, societal norms have put the onus on the man as the pursuer. The man should risk rejection. Even men who are shy have to risk rejection asking women out. I know there are plenty of women nowadays who ask men out. However, I still think the onus is on men to ask the woman out. Dr. Farrell, states that this was for evolutionary purposes as a guidepost so women can see how persistent men were to overcome her many “no’s”. The mindset being that the man who could overcome the woman’s many objections would be the strongest protector/providers for the family unit. So I say this to my fellow men, if you have the courage to ask a lady out, and she says “no”, that is the end of it! No means no. No more overcoming female objections. Once a woman says the first no to a date, end it and leave the situation. You not only are respecting yourself but respecting the woman as well. The game of “Hard to get” is over.